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Overcoming first time swinger nerves

Posted by admin on July - 11 - 2011

First time nerves or stage fright is not uncommon in swinging and it’s not just a problem for men, it can easily affect women as well, it’s just not so obvious when it does.

You can imagine the tyupical scenario where a man has been imagining playing with a new partner for ages, perhaps even for months, and suddenly the situation is upon them and they find they can’t…

The important thing to remember if you find yourself in this situation is that it is natural and it is not anyone’s fault.

What causes “stage fright” in swinging?

It is normally becuse we are not comfortable with out environment for some reason. In a typical dating scenario sex doesn’t normally happen until you have had chance to get to know each other and become more comfortable with each other to a degree, however long this takes. And when you start swinging it is normally when you have been with your partner for some time and grown to know them.

This is not the situation in swinging, you will often find yourself with someone who you don’t really know very well, if at all, which can feel intimidating and cause nervousness for many people. Not everyone feels comfortable having sex with a relative stranger, someone that you may have only met for an hour or so before..

What can you do?

The solution is the same as always, communicate. Take a time out and get to know the person a bit better and you will normally find that the nerves start to fade away fairly rapidly and you’ll be ready to continue where you left off, and becuase you’vre spent the extra time getting to know the person a bit better the situation will often end up being even more enjoyable than you were expecting.

You should also remember that it is fgairly likely that the person/people you are with have also had the same feelings of nervousness at some time, so they will understand you.

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